Being Right13 Aug
Through out my life I have noticed that being right has played a huge part in my life, especially in my teens and early twenties and come to think of it quite a lot of my thirties and forties! I guess I have just got better at covering it up, in the social mirror, however as I have learnt more and taken a sometimes timid look into the inner workings of my mind, I can now see so much of my pain and stress and energy has been spent defending the person I call “me” and for me to exist successfully I had to be right, to be wrong began a process of lose of self or as many call it a loss of face, which when taken literally is kind of the same thing. However in recent years I witnessed how much time and energy was being taken in defending me and in a lot of cases refuting other people’s view of what is right. Then one day while reading a book a line jumped out at me
What if everything you had done or been in your life was wrong and you could be ok with that
For this was a revelation because in a blink of an eye I went from thinking that if everything had been wrong my existence had been a waste of time to a awakening that to let go of that concept was to free myself, its not to say I do not have preferences of how I would like myself, the people I interact with, and the world in general to be, however I do realise the rules I had for the world were and are exactly that- my rules.
So how important to you is it to be right? And where and with whom does it manifest its self? Perhaps over the next couple of days just watch your self, and remember there’s nothing to defend. I am I telling you, that you have to give up being right to instead feel wrong, no I am just giving the insight that we have a choice, and when we are not aware we are often on automatic pilot, and often the stresses and strains that we experience in our daily life can be due to the lack of awareness that we are always standing at the point of choice.
But do not take my word for it!!
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